February 21st, 2022 @ 12:44 am
i never took one of these quizzes before, and whenever i think “my love language” i’m just thinking funny/every day shit like “thoughtful texts” (no matter how small), “hockey tickets”, “chicken cutlets”, “ferrero roche balls”, “creating specific memories”, etc. – but apparently, it’s an actual thing. so here were my results:
words of affirmation – 33%
actions don’t always speak louder than words. if this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. hearing the words, “i love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
i would rather have attention via words any day of the week vs. material things. it’s been a rarity over time to have been showered with thoughtful words i want to hear. to be honest, it’s only been a handful, and i should have never let them go. i haven’t had that in a long time, and yearn for it again.
“i miss you”, “i’ve been thinking about you”, “i want to see you” and physical compliments go a long way.
receiving gifts – 20%
don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. if you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. a missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.
it’s a rarity when people get this right, and it’s all i really want aside from verbal thoughtfulness. if i’m at rite aid, i’m picking up your favorite candy, just because. just to make you smile. is it too much to desire that back? i don’t think so… it takes two seconds to be thoughtful, people.
i think this is high on the list for me, because i do it for others all the time. not just relationships – for friends too. thoughtfulness means so much to me. whether it be restoring a lost item from the past, to adding to a wardrobe, having something for a bookshelf, some relic from a shared tv show, me making you something by hand or a framed pic from a trip, etc. – i love all that shit. ♥
physical touch – 17%
this language isn’t all about the bedroom. a person whose primary language is physical touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.
true! (although the bedroom stuff is v important, too) …don’t hold my hand though, i hate that shit.
quality time – 17%
in the vernacular of quality time, nothing says, “i love you,” like full, undivided attention. being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the tv off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. quality time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.
i don’t mind some attention – but i’m not expecting full, undivided attention. when it comes time to being on your phone – just don’t be rude.
also: i hate being around people 24/7. i need my space, and i assume others do, too. i have no prob spending a lot of time with someone if they want to, but i’m never against having personal days.
acts of service – 13%
can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? absolutely! anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “acts of service” person will speak volumes. the words he or she most want to hear: “let me do that for you.” laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.
i have OCD, don’t do anything i don’t ask you to do and we’ll be grand, lol.