March 2nd, 2022 @ 7:01 pm
i FINALLY just finished a re-watch of gilmore girls. normally, i’d hate to admit that i watched this show… but it grew on me differently this time. i think the worst part about GG is all of the white privilege happening. it’s so cringe, but this is what i signed up for. the two main characters are white women, situated in a cozy little town in connecticut, what can anyone expect otherwise?
the first time i watched gg, i came away REALLY hating rory. like, still to this day, i swore that she was the worst… so after a LONG hiatus from the first time i watched it years ago, i figured i’d give it another run to see why i hated her so much. so much time had passed since i watched it the first time, that i actually forgot the show (i love it when that happens).
this time, i started a note in my iphone’s notes entitled “FUCK RORY” to jot down why she is the absolute worst. every time she severely pissed me off, i made note of it for this post.
my takeaway from this watch was much different. i ended up mostly hating lorelai this time.
also: there is so much inappropriate comedy and homage i caught this time around that i either forgot or didn’t pick up on (clearly from all of the quotes i keep posting here on the blog… but i love that in the reboot, rory ends up mentioning having a childhood crush on jerry orbach (who played her grandmother’s husband in dirty dancing).
(spoilers ahead if you’ve never seen the show)
overall, rory is such a sarcastic and sometimes nasty little shit. don’t even get me started on her white privilege. i won’t elaborate too much on these, assuming you’ve made it this far, you’ve probably seen the show.
infraction 1: the attitude she gives her mom about dating max (her teacher)
infraction 2: how she didn’t say i love you back to dean, then the entire jess situation happens and she gets pissed at dean for being pissed about jess – AND THEN FUCKS DEAN WHEN HE’S MARRIED…?
infraction 3: how she treated max when she learned her mom was talking to him again
infraction 4: how she overall treats lane
infraction 5: how she treats everyone the week that dean is working with lane on a science project (aka like shit)
infraction 6: when she wants to break up with dean and she’s treating him like shit and in S2/E18 she says “what are you doing here?” to him at luke’s
infraction 7: when rory missed lorelai’s graduation to go see jess in nyc
infraction 8: how she treated her dad about calling lorelai when sherry left him for france and he had the baby
infraction 9: how she treats her dad when he randomly shows up at yale when his father is sick (i understand he was a crap dad through her younger years, but by the teenage years, he’s not THAT crappy. i get it, he’s a deadbeat… i get it, i had one too, but he doesn’t beat her, molest her, he’s not a raging alcoholic or a drug abuser… he steps up a lot AND towards the end of the show she’s happy her parents get together… so he can’t be all that bad)
infraction 10: when she decides to quit yale and move in with her grandparents to spite her mother
infraction 11: how she treated logan
infraction 12: not marrying logan
infraction 13: HOW SHE TREATED LOGAN WHILE HE WAS LIVING IN LONDON WITH HIS FIANCÉ
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as mentioned above, i found lorelai unbearable this time around. i can’t remember if i hated her this much the first time i watched the show, but holy hell did she annoy me this time.
while i give her credit for raising rory to be an overall good person, her age truly shows otherwise. she didn’t instill certain things into rory and it shows, and it’s probably bc she’s kind of a kid herself. when the show was first on, she was 32. i don’t know about y’all, but at 32, i was STILL probably not fully cooked and i didn’t even have to put my life aside to raise a kid since the ripe age of 16. their dynamic is more bff than mother/daughter and it’s frustrating to watch them both implode when rory needs to be disciplined or actually taught a life lesson.
lorelai lacks basic communication skills, she’s impulsive, she is stubborn, makes terrible decisions and is emotionally unhinged. whenever it comes time to her parents – mostly her mother – she is completely shitty and doesn’t communicate properly. she finally goes to therapy with her mother in the last season and what does she do? she doesn’t fully use the sessions to her potential, blames her mother for everything to the point where her mother quits.
i loathed how she treated luke, even if they did end up together. she put that man through the damn ringer.
every little thing her parents try to do for rory that she challenges – omg like harvard vs. yale when she’s throwing a damn fit. in fact, every time she blows up on her parents for no reason. if she didn’t want to grow up and end up like her parents in their world, just freaking keep your legs closed and get out of the house. would it have been that hard? sheesh.
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so much complaining… do i even like the show?
i have no idea. maybe it’s a guilty pleasure.
i honestly liked to have it on in the background, but i don’t mind watching it either. i love the atmosphere of the cute little town, even though i can’t imagine ever living in that type of setting. i can’t stand privileged white people – and as much as i love lorelai’s parents, sometimes the writers would make them so ignorant and privileged. the inconsistency of emily’s character was awful – especially towards any of the staff that runs her house.
as aforementioned, i love the subtle, inappropriate, filthy humor on the show.
the la la la and bah bah bah songs drive me NUTS. i don’t remember them from the first time i watched them, but this time it really annoyed me.
lorelai, rory and paris never stfu and i constantly have to pause the show when they’re chirping. i know the banter is part of the show’s appeal, but sometimes it’s like, SLOW DOWN. esp bc it’s background noise while i’m working.
GIL – sebastian fuckin bach is hilarious on the show.
i think emily is my favorite character, when she’s not being an ignorant or nasty dingus. she’s hysterical and quippy.
okay, there are my positives… thank you for coming to my ted talk.