September 3rd, 2021 @ 1:08 am
while i truly appreciate the bravery of women coming forward and writing articles/tweet threads about their abortions, i find that a lot of the time, the stories are about how their lives were saved because of their abortion(s), and that being why abortion should be legal. the undertone of justification makes me cringe. i know that’s not the intent – i know, i know, i know. i just hate that is the vibe i pick up on a lot of the time when reading these things.
abortion should just be legal.
not just for medical reasons, even if it doesn’t agree with your beliefs system. it’s no one’s business but the woman’s own.
it’s so hard to talk about your abortion(s) without having to feel judged, so having done that publicly, i give them a lot of credit. it’s got to be scary – maybe close to the same feeling i got when i was coming out as bi to my mother (LAST YEAR, AT AGE 38, FFS!). it’s like you keep trying to open your mouth, and words just don’t come out because of shame or judgement.
“you don’t have to tell everyone EVERYTHING.” – my uncle, when i told him i came out to my mother. he then followed it up with “what if you had an unhealthy/frail grandmother and you told her that, gave her a heart attack and killed her? then would you be happy just because you had to get that off your chest?”
i instantly replied with “responses like that is why people stay closeted, and in some cases kill themselves.”
this is also why i don’t discuss many seriously personal things online, especially of the abortion nature, and that’s annoys me. i want to be supportive of other women without having to be judged, but i’m skirting my own personal experience.
listen, i’m not anyone that can make a difference here – i’m not a celebrity, i’m not journalist, etc. i’m a blip in this stupid internet universe, and i’m just a dingleberry that talks to who knows who here, in hopes that someone can relate to the same things i do and not feel alone in the actual universe. i’m not going to overshare my own life, but i’ll leave it at this:
you probably know someone who has had an abortion.
you probably LOVE someone that’s had an abortion.
it doesn’t change ANYTHING.
people that have had abortions aren’t evil or bad people.
their reasons are their reasons.
if you’re religious – be religious for yourself, not for others. your beliefs don’t belong on anyone else.
at the end of the day, the circumstances surrounding ANY abortion shouldn’t matter. any reason should be valid, and abortion shouldn’t be illegal.
we women don’t need ANYONE – especially the government, politicians and judges telling us whether or not abortion is justified, allowed or looked down upon.
WE DO NOT NEED A VALID REASON TO HAVE ONE. we should just have the right to have one safely and legally, and to our privacy.
i can’t believe in the year 2021, any of us women are dealing with abortion bans. it’s insane.