January 25th, 2020 @ 2:49 pm
i saw this the other day in the back kitchen at work:
as i was cleaning out my own coffee mug (cobra kai), it caught my eye and i got super irritated and borderline offended.
i realize that i am clearly more to the left and a progressive person, which automatically shoves me into a special category of people (being a PC person). i don’t have a problem with that, but i can see idiotic normal people thinking i’m being dramatic when i complain about this innocently, ignorant and insensitive mug. whenever people realize someone gives a dramatic amount of a shit about others, they’re instantly criticized for it… so please, fuck off if that is also your impression and if you don’t agree with me.
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political correctness: a term used to describe language, policies, or measures that are intended to avoid offense or disadvantage to members of particular groups in society.
this exists to make fucking people not feel bad, weird, sad, terrible, left out, singled out, etc. – but we still have people in the world complaining that things are TOO PC.
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the reason that i was so fucking irritated by this mug, is that it’s at a public workplace. you don’t know who could be hurt by just reading those words. you don’t know what people’s life situations are/were and to have to be reminded of it while at work is irritating and disrespectful.
some people don’t have mothers.
a) some people are instantly put up for adoption after being born and have a horrible upbringing in foster care, and/or never get adopted
b) some people’s mothers DIE during childbirth and/or generally during upbringing (or fuck it, even as an adult)
c) some people’s mothers make cruddy/bad decisions (i speak from experience)
d) some people’s mothers are abusive, drugs addicts, alcoholics, etc.
i know it’s just a mug, but fuck that mug.
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this reminds me of the seemingly oblivious goons that post happy mother’s/father’s day stuff on instagram when their parents aren’t even on IG or will see it. we are so conditioned to just post about EVERYTHING that we don’t even realize we’re posting to people who can’t see it. i realize SOME of my friend’s parents are on IG, but it’s not very many. i’m sure this complaint seems dramatic, but some people might be missing one or both parents and it triggers anxiety, depression, etc.
this doesn’t mean that your parent who IS alive shouldn’t be celebrated… but again: FOR THE MOST PART, OUR PARENTS ARE NOT ON FUCKING INSTAGRAM. this is why we have greeting cards, texting, phone calls, etc. – just do it between you and that person, not the world.
so yeah, if you’re one of those people that read this and instantly get annoyed or want to complain about this post: instead of having the useless reaction of getting pissed off that i’m annoyed by wanting to have empathy for people who are missing/lacking parents, how about you use your brains and just keep that shit IN REAL LIFE, where it matters… imagine you were in other people’s positions. how would it make you feel?
if you think you’re one of those people that wouldn’t care, well it doesn’t fucking matter. my point is don’t exclude and dismiss people that could potentially care or be affected. that’s what makes a better society. take your energy and turn it into something positive for someone else.