August 3rd, 2018 @ 1:22 pm
yesterday on IG, one of my favorite tattoo artists posted a picture of her leg with an “abortion is normal” tattoo on it. she bravely spoke about her experience having one back when she was 19, even though she didn’t have to outright mention her personal experience, she did – and probably thought it was a good idea to share to inspire others to think for themselves. i’m going off of that vibe because she stated she’s pro-choice, and that was the point of the post.
she talked about how the probability of someone you know and love probably had one, in efforts to prove that you shouldn’t unknowingly judge people that have openly had one. you can only imagine how many morons decided to comment DUMB opinions on the picture…
no one has ANY RIGHT to try to tell someone else how to think or feel when it comes time to their bodies and their lives. people know what’s best for themselves. it’s BEYOND irritating to me that people need to project their bullshit beliefs, religious or otherwise, onto others.
there is no “normal”. christianity’s values DOES NOT EQUAL NORMAL. i don’t understand why people can’t wrap their feeble little minds around this. if you believe in that, go on and believe in that… but don’t try to convince others that it’s the law or normal. i live in the USA – a free country – where i don’t need to be a christian, where i can be whatever i want. there is no american standard of existing aside from being free, working hard and paying taxes. we as americans aren’t white christians… can we please remember that? the sooner we start doing that, the more peaceful society becomes.
i feel like me posting about this could be borderline hypocritical, since me writing these words are projecting my beliefs onto your eyeballs, but what i want is for everyone to understand that they only need to be responsible for themselves. don’t worry about someone else, worry about yourself. mind your business and accept that my way of thinking doesn’t match yours. i may not like or agree that someone is 10000000% a practicing christian god lover, but i don’t tell them not to believe in it. i go on my merry way and don’t utter a damn word.
someone chimed in saying that she was trying to glamorize abortion with the term “normalize”. when this tattoo artist said “normalize” it was a term meaning, MAKE THIS PROCEDURE AS ACCEPTABLE AND SAFELY AVAILABLE AS HAVING A TOOTH PULLED, WITHOUT JUDGEMENT instead of calling it murder. yes, i am comparing scraping soulless embryonic cells from a uterus to having a tooth pulled. not every abortion is some terribly scary, emotional, frightening procedure – and it shouldn’t have to be.
i hate to break it to many of you, but that’s precisely what it is, and how some of us feel about getting pregnant. some of us don’t want kids. once i have medical coverage again, i’m looking to remove my fallopian tubes.
we are science. we are animals. we are not a fetus or a “baby” until after the embryo phase (approximately 11/12 weeks). not to be too crude here, but sperm are creepy ass motile cells that judgemental ass women probably swallow on the regs, do we talk about that? i’m sorry, that’s probably a really strange comparison, but it’s true.
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also in her post: she explained that if it wasn’t for that abortion, she probably wouldn’t be as successful as she is today with her own tattoo shop with great artists, etc. and someone said to her (along the lines of) “why do you think your life would have been worse with a child?” and “why would a child have prevented your success?”
the fucking nerve.
first off: even if she put it on a public post where people could put their two cents in – she put it there stating how she felt at the time and to talk about the reality of the situation. she wanted to talk about the fact that there should be the option to not be stuck with a kid (yes, some of us actually feel that way. STUCK.). it’s no one’s business to be rude and ask stupid questions like that.
secondly: how about bc kids = time and money, and there goes your freedom? freedom for personal life, business life or otherwise. maybe she would have been an excellent, attentive mother that gave 100% to her kid and put her art/career on the back burner instead?
thirdly: IT DOESN’T MATTER, WE AREN’T HER AND WE DON’T HAVE A RIGHT TO CHIME IN.
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i’m not going to get into the whole political schpeel about it. if you think i should have a kid and either keep it or give it up for adoption when i don’t want one vs. have a ridiculously easy medical procedure, YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR MIND. a child is a person – a soul (if you must) – a brain with a personality, and a life. a person that has to go through this life and be responsible for themselves and deal with everything that comes along with a parent’s bullshit. if you’re adopted, who is to say that you won’t be fucked in the head thinking your parents just didn’t want you? who says that child won’t feel like useless garbage? there are infinite different scenarios, and you can’t just tell someone else that it’s going to be okay, just because you don’t think abortion is right, personally.
in a country that clearly doesn’t give a flying fuck about mental health, why should kids be born into a world where there is the clear potential in these situations for bad mental health? i grew up without my dad and i didn’t deserve that. kids deserve a fair shot with a great upbringing and two (or more, whatever) parents. my mother was a single parent and i’m not discrediting her as a great single parent, but i deserved a father as well – and a good one. unfortunately my mother didn’t pick a good man to procreate with. this has affected me in ways i probably don’t even know about, bc i’ve never gone to therapy.
for me, i feel like people just have kids for no reason, without thinking about their futures, and it’s not right.
anyways, i’m a woman and i can not stand having ANYONE tell me how to run my uterus. not old, rich, political white men, not my mother, especially strangers on the internet or otherwise. this is my vessel and if i don’t want a pregnancy in it, i should have the option to not have one. it’s a medical procedure that needs to be safely available to every woman.
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what was my point? oh yeah, just start accepting that people’s mindsets aren’t the same as yours and keep your stupid opinions against the freedom for *anything* in other people’s lives, especially when it comes time to their personal lives, to yourselves.