September 29th, 2015 @ 11:19 am
lmao, it escapes the mind and then the universe throws it back at me… at least this one made me giggle.
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September 29th, 2015 @ 11:19 am
lmao, it escapes the mind and then the universe throws it back at me… at least this one made me giggle.
January 22nd, 2015 @ 11:28 am
i often whine about missbehave magazine no longer existing… mainly because it was a MASSIVE inspiration to/for me back in the mid 2000’s. that time in my life was like a 2nd coming of age for me. i found my comfort zone in my adult life, creative life and career. i started working on graphic design and web design again, i met jes, i got really big into graff, i dumped andrew, i loved working on myspace contact tables, i found new music, i got pierced and started getting tattoos, i bought jewelry and clothing i wanted… i basically evolved into the stu i am today… it was just a very creative, colourful, inspiring time… and missbehave happened to be HUGE at that time.
while my ex had subscriptions to mass appeal and juxtapoz, missbehave was thrown into the mix. he would go through them, and then i would steal them and cut them into pieces. i was big into collaging back then. my bedroom walls, canvases, graphic design, etc. – unfortunately, that’s where all of my missbehave mags went… i cut them to pieces to use for art (RIP). i regret doing this now, because i can’t lay around in my bed reading them, and looking at all of the rad/kitschy fonts and graphic design that would inspire me to start doing graphic design and making more t-shirts. i can however (CREEEEEEEEEEP) refer to the waybackmachine to read old posts. one in particular SUUUUUUUUUUUUUPER bummed me out.
clicky click here, then continue reading.
while missbehave is continually missed, even in the year 2014 (just look at how many pins exist), between all the (PACKED) events that took place, and the famous people that they had on their covers, and all of the radness that they brought into peoples lives… that article existed.
despite what i thought they were raking in with the print mag $$$, the deeper i dug into their old website, the crazier it seemed that their posts only averaged 15-30 comments (i’m being generous with the 30).
that is AWFUL. so fucking sad, awful, lazy and what the fuckish. how lazy and weird are we as website visitors/readers (i’m guilty of this as well), that we don’t regularly interact in comments?! even on my websites, it’s a rarity that i get comments – but i still get hits, so people are in fact reading. i’ve had personal websites and blogs since the 90’s, and the only time i had a high number of regular comments was when i had a static webcam to bring in hits (no, i was never nude) or when my little community of fellow cam folks existed.
so there’s a massive group of ladies that REALLY want missbehave to return, but it seems like we didn’t know what we had until it was gone. open your mouths and be online friends, people.
nowadays, my instagram is the same shit. i rarely post selfies, and when i do… 100+ likes. if i post a picture my jewelry or something that is edited nicely and artsy fartsy, i average 20-40 likes.
especially when it comes time to my jewelry, that shit is deflating.
I HAVE OVER 570 FOLLOWERS – MOSTLY PEOPLE THAT I KNOW IN REAL LIFE.
man, people are fucking weird.
June 24th, 2014 @ 1:42 pm
i’ve lived alone since january 1, 2010. i moved into my super inexpensive, basement, studio apartment in ridgewood… and i loved it.
when i first moved into my teeny apartment, it felt so weird. i remember thinking to myself often that was in bed, and i was also in my kitchen. it took a really long time for me to get over that… i almost felt like i was in a glorified dorm room or something. i had always lived with my mother and sister, so it was also quite lonely when i got there. it was a horrible time for me in life as well, so that didn’t help. i had just lost my awesome apartment in brooklyn, no thanks to my shithead roommate, i had to move back to my mother’s house for a few months, and the kid i was dating broke up with me around that time. i was stuck in this horrible rut and then i was lonely.
my apartment wasn’t close to where i grew up in the ‘burbs, so i barely saw my best friend sophie, unless we were doing our holiday cocktail lounge friday’s. my friend that used to hang out with me at my BK apartment suddenly dropped off of the face of the earth (i’m guessing bc it was no longer convenient for her to commute to my place? AND it was a small apt), and everyone else was just far. i tried to do new things to keep myself busy, and tried things that were out of my comfort zone… i hung out with new/random people, went to the local bars, went to shows and met people, hung out with guys that were NOT in my circle of friends (which was totally awkward). i didn’t feel satisfied at all doing all of these brave new things. strangers are fucking awkward, and the dudes i was meeting all bored me or weirded me out.
i didn’t really start getting comfortable until my life started coming back together. i had moved closer to jes and we were spending more time together, i had met my best friend lauren and i was going out to and watching ranger games again (bars), i started hanging out with my other close friend steve, then i met elbow… then one day i had realized that i was happy, and that i loved living alone. no headaches, no fighting, no having to converse after a long day… i could just come home to complete and utter silence.
THENNNNNNNNNN my landlord in ridgewood had died suddenly, and his kids sold the building. the person who was buying it wanted to move into my basement apartment, so i had to go.
June 10th, 2014 @ 11:53 am
. there goes hockey (the rangers have blown the finals)
. there goes the great houdini
. there goes the peace and quiet of living alone (no offense to my future roomie!)
. there goes my BFF to san francisco
damn, all i do is complain…
OH, how about a fun PSA?
last week i learned that you can’t drink this without your poop turning grass green (don’t worry, i learned the hard way for all of us, that it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re dying – no pun intended).
November 21st, 2013 @ 10:55 am
as if there aren’t a billion things going on in the last 2/3 years that keep making me feel ancient… my friend emailed me last night that winamp is going to be discontinuing their services to the public.
I STILL USE WINAMP. are you even surprised?
click here to download it, before it’s gone foreverz.
guh. the 90’s, how i miss thee.
i remember the first time i had to download winamp to play an mp3. my friend melissa hanser sent me a sublime song on AOL. i was like “wtf is an mp3 and how do i open/play this song?!”
don’t forget to download rad classic skins, as well. i have some nintendo ones in my arsenal if anyone needs them (various super mario/zelda).
September 25th, 2013 @ 2:36 pm
i have always been a creative little monster. since i was a young stu, i’ve always enjoyed making things. whether it be drawing, photoshop, coloring, jewelry, crafts, collaging, etc. it was always something. as i grew into adulthood, it was the same thing. as a teenager, i went from mario paint to photoshop, and from photoshop to coding HTML and CSS. from cutting up clothing to sewing it together in different ways, using iron on letters to customize shirts (thanks to my old friend ellen), to modifying hairbows and jewelry. currently, i’m creating websites, t-shirts and earrings on the regular. as much as i love doing it, time is of the essence, and it’s really starting to hit me that it needs to pay off or i have to put my efforts elsewhere.
my day (like billions of other people’s) consists of 2 hours commuting back and forth and 8 hours of work. i am so tired by the time that i get home, that i don’t want to do anything, let alone craft. between having to clean my apartment that is now 4x larger than i was used to, to taking care of kitty and giving him adequate attention, hanging out with boyfriend and my handful of friends and/or keeping up with all of my orders that come through, i don’t have time to even market what i do. i don’t know how people do it, honestly… maybe it’s because i’m now entering my 30’s (which yes, actually does make a difference compared to my 20’s), but that sounds like a cop out.
i’d love to be that “grinding” person, but i’m just not one of those people that are like “there are 24 usable hours in a day” (– corey, empire records), i’m more like “there are only 24 hours in a day”. as i said before, i spend 2 of them commuting and 8 of them working. that leaves me with 14 usable hours, and i need 7 of those (at least 7) for sleeping, which then leaves me with 7. 7 hours to do whatever i can leisurely and oriented towards my hobbies/creative ventures… that’s just ridiculous.
i guess i need to micro-manage my hours… an hour or even a half an hour a day might make the difference, but to find time to be that consistent even 3 days a week doesn’t seem all that possible. not only that, i have zero patience for social media.
i think the thing that is most frustrating about this situation sometimes, is that i have a bunch of people that are well established, that could push my goods here and there, that don’t. i know that one should never assume or expect that people should do things in return for others, but if i have been a good friend and supported/pushed your product, it’d be nice to have some support in return. it takes a second to link someone via tweet, website, pinterest, etc.
i’m never going to ask people to do that type of stuff, and they’d never have to ask me to.
– a perplexed lady with great/creative ideas, that needs a fucking break/hand.
(wahhhhh! fuck it, i’m not afraid to admit it…)
August 20th, 2013 @ 1:22 pm
[article: there goes the neighborhood]
♥ thank you for capturing my angst for out-of-state transplants in a mature way, that makes total sense. ♥
“when there is something special in this world… It shouldn’t be exploited.”
…that’s the difference between actual new yorkers and the majority of these out-of-state lemmings. we don’t exploit our neighborhoods, we enjoy them. we queens natives are not taking our neighborhoods for granted, i guess we just inadvertently and unconsciously keep them to ourselves, so that they don’t get overrun by lame people that really just try too hard, and ruin our moderately sensible ways of life.
around my ‘hood (i’ve been living in ridgewood/glendale area for 3 years now), they’re trickling in. i don’t understand why there is a need to have neighborhood pride in the sense that it needs to be exploited, discovered or pushed like “OMG no one has ever seen this land before” type of shit… when it boils down to it, it’s just another ‘hood in queens.
there are decades and decades of old school families that have been there, minding their own business, just living life. they’re ruining it for us now, and our future native generations (if any of us even choose to stay). how i feel for queens, is also how i feel for native brooklyn ‘hoods that are quiet and family oriented as well. these loud/annoying hipsters that drink/scream all night like they’re living in dorms and not apartments are annoying, there are certain ‘hoods for that…
queens isn’t a novelty, it’s not a goal for someone in ohio or iowa. i wonder wtf goes through these transplants heads, i swear.
we don’t need art galleries, we don’t need vegan this that and the other thing, or an american apparel (god, please don’t let them infiltrate!), or gourmet snobby cheese stores run by 30 yr old white men with jorts+beards, nor do we want these things. that’s what the industrial areas that are rundown and revamped are for.
what i don’t get, is that if they were trying to escape their prison-like non-accepting suburbs, why are they now looking for the suburbs? THEY SHOULD JUST GO BACK HOME (or did they just want to live that way elsewhere, wearing thick framed glasses, converse/jorts and munching on tofu?).
i feel really awful being so negative about this topic all of the time. it just really frustrates me that where i was born and raised, and should have the right to stay in and give to my future kids if i have any, is almost out of my grasps. there’s only room for it to get worse and more expensive.
November 6th, 2012 @ 3:29 pm
on halloween night this year, mike and i did the universal studios halloween horror nights. they had the walking dead maze which i previously posted about, and a silent hill maze. there were other mazes, but we didn’t walk through them… the lines on the mazes had crazy long waits, and the express passes sold out when we were buying our tickets that morning… so we just walked around, watched a live bill & ted show and drank cold beers.
the walking dead maze zombies looked amazing as did the maze itself, and just like the intended sets. there were a crazy amount of people there, so i guess it was tough to have people go in smaller groups. we saw all of the things that were coming up for us before we even got to them, because everyone was kind of being rushed through. one of the zombies in particular looked like others walking around also, almost like leatherface, and it seemed like there was this one repeat zombie almost four different times.
another thing that truly killed it for me were all of the universal studios staff members in the maze. it wasn’t a subtle person here and there, the black polo shirt donned helpers were so obviously perched at so many turns and in so many corners! it honestly took away from the element, killed the scary vibe.
although everything looked AMAZING… all in all, eh. i wasn’t scared or spooked by this one
the silent hill maze was pretty rad, the fog/ashes falling down while you walked in was sick (and yes, the sirens were going full steam)! it looked just like in the SH movies. there wasn’t too much that scared me other than the entire spooky vibe of silent hill, in general. the only things that really got to me were the creepy bathroom (from the first movie) with that chick wrapped in barbed wire (it looked so real!), the “cops” from the new movie, the pyramid head walking next to me/walking around creepy back alleys (completely dodged him, thank god) and the CREEPY ASS nurses.
the only thing that i think sucked about the SH maze, is that they really OD’d having an army of those creepy ass nurses – why concentrate on just one scary element?
all in all, loved this one.
mike and i were trying to get into this one maze called “dead end” but the line was excruciatingly long and i made mike get off of the line. it was seriously ridiculous, and that’s when we went to the silent hill maze (which we originally turned back from, which had an hour long wait). i wonder how that one would have been. we left soon after, because we had been at the park all day. we were exhausted and sore from the entire day.
June 28th, 2012 @ 10:35 pm
for the last few months, while i’m still freelancing for the company that i have worked for since 2008, i’ve been looking for a full time job in web development. the job market is fucking awful, and i keep feeling like finding a job doing what i love is going to be hopeless. especially since all that i really want to do is build wordpress websites for artists, small business’s, musicians, etc.
while i go through all of these websites for jobs, it’s the same BS… i look for website developer work and they want one person that can do 9379379387 things, unpaid interns or people who freelance. personally, i don’t want to freelance. working on a 1099 is ridiculously (tax) annoying, and i want a steady salary and health benefits again. aside from all of these companies wanting one person that does a shit ton of things relatively affiliated to development (although it’s a little fucking ridiculous the skill sets that are being requested), i find some of these listings hysterical. i’m looking up “html/css/wordpress” specifically, and i keep getting job listings that call for drupal, joomla, ajax, asp, mobile sites, ui development, magento, ruby on rails, etc.
like, yes, it would be great if you could find someone that could do all of those things… but when i’m specifically searching for a wordpress development job, i don’t want to read all that bullshit. i feel like it’s as bad as when you’re looking to buy something on ebay with the idiots that throw in the ***VINTAGE AMERICAN EAGLE ABERCROMBIE AE AEROPOSTALE*** type shit (meanwhile, you’re searching for a discontinued gap shirt or something, lol). stupid turds throw off the whole FINDING A SPECIFIC ITEM FORMULA.
i find it a little strange that someone would even have a job listing that included “html/css” if the job is aiming for a cms developer… what kind of developer can work on and build an entire CMS and would NOT know the basic building blocks? so stupid.
i even found a job listing for a graphic design job yesterday that was asking for background in website design AND architecture, lol.
W T F ? ? ? ?
i don’t know what other type of work i could/should get into other than this. i would love to just do something creative. in fashion, doing nails, accessories? ahhhhhh, so unsure.
June 17th, 2012 @ 1:43 am
i redid my portfolio over @ S2UDIO tonight, and i felt weird when i was updating the homepage text, which was pitching the importance of having a website. i felt like having a go to domain with a website isn’t going to be as important as it once was, because of sites like facebook and twitter, etc.
i think that everyone is so spoiled and reliant on smaller, more instant micro-updates, rather than directly visiting a site for “bigger” updates. because of this, i think people would rather rely on a website like facebook.
i guess i wouldn’t consider myself a web-pioneer or anything, but do i remember the mid 90’s when people only went to AOL keyword pages and websites. i’ve had my own website since around 1998, and always appreciate the importance of having a go-to information hub. as a “blogger” (cringe), i still have this website (that now only sees less than 100 people a day, as opposed to other heavy traffic it saw years ago), i have a tumblr (for images only, really), twitter, instagram, aim, a flickr account, we heart it, it’s just endless. now with pinterest (which i have, but don’t use), it seems like the better the technology, there’s more room for people to just get lost in the shuffle. especially with the re-blog, re-pin, re-post options. (PS – people don’t use tags properly, nor do they provide sources, which is also frustrating.)
i don’t know if i sound like an old lady complaining about this, but i feel like it’s a bunch of chaotic bullshit. as much as i love new technology and advancements, i wish it were like the early 2000’s still. i’d be making a killing making websites, lol.
the demographic of people that could use my freelance services NOW sometimes complain about pricing, but what i charge is pretty inexpensive, especially for the quality and service of what you get. because of the aforementioned sites, i feel like they’re less likely to see a website like that as a necessity.
i was seriously born in the wrong era.
December 9th, 2011 @ 1:48 am
they’re remaking “american psycho”, and i’m suuuuper excited about it!
i saw the movie first and then read the book. as much as i love(d) the movie (and the dark humour), while i was reading the book, i was actually getting kind of pissed off that the movie parodied it as much as it did.
i can’t wait for this new adaptation. the only thing i’m not looking forward to is that it isn’t based in the 80’s.
although the harron movie is gory and dark, i still don’t think it was as dark as the book because of how serious the majority of the tone was in the book. i’m in no way saying it had no humour, but the movie embellished it a bit. what i find so aggravating, is reading the reactions to this remake. between reading comments online and then after i posted it on twitter, i got all this whiny nonsense back about it “being perfect the way that it is” and “it’s so good, why are they fucking it up” and “christian bale _________…” yadda yadda…
it’s been like 7 years since i read the book, but i pretty much remember christian bale wasn’t like pat bateman in the book… however, i believe that he was a fantastic pat bateman. i don’t know who could play a “better” one, but because this is the only version of the movie we have to compare it to, we’ll never have a good/clear opinion.
i’ve read comments about people bitching about how it’s going to be an insult between the cast and the adaption – and it’s pissing me off. why can’t people realize that IT’S JUST DIFFERENT?
i think people are missing the point and/or just don’t know that THE MOVIE ISN’T AN ACCURATE DEPICTION OF THE BOOK… i’d love to know the percentage of people that actually read the book vs. didn’t that are leaving these comments.
the way that i’m thinking is, we’ve gotta just pretend that we never even saw that movie so that we give it a fair chance.
either way, i could give a shitfuck what anyone thinks, i’m excited, and i figured i’d share this information with whoever reads this website. #w00t
November 1st, 2011 @ 3:45 pm
am i the only person that finds it REALLY FUCKING ANNOYING when online shops show an item, yet it’s sold out?
when i see “SOLD OUT” items, especially a bunch of them, i click the little X never to return. if you aren’t using paypal and/or maintaining your own website, why would you have an e-comm system that didn’t remove inventory automatically? in the year 2011, you’ve gotta have a system that alerts you that an item with final piece inventory sold, where you can remove it if it isn’t automatically removed…
i feel like people are just being obnoxious and showing what they had that sold, that someone didn’t get to quickly enough and now they’ll never be able to.
no, honestly this shit just irks me. i haven’t missed out on anything specific that i wanted, thankfully…
maybe. but i also think i may be right.
September 29th, 2011 @ 10:26 pm
if you don’t use instagram, i suggest not reading this because it’s just a review of the new version… and my complaints that follow with it. (of course…)
so it’s been a week since the instagram upgrade, and i’ve just realized that my eyeballs were NOT deceiving me… they made seemingly drastic changes to existing filters, and three of my favorite ones are just totally removed no thanks to the four new (in my opinion, mediocre, that all look alike?) filters. also: that new live/auto-preview while you’re applying the filter… #worst! now personally, i can’t decide what damn filter i want to use because of the live change. i miss just clicking the filter and seeing it.
i also noticed that when uploading the images to my flickr account, the filter that’s been chosen is no longer provided as a tag. something super small, but i did appreciate that.
i also can’t revert back to the previous version because itunes auto-deletes the old version on app upgrades, and i totes emptied my recycling bin since then. i searched for the .ipa file and i couldn’t find it
so. pissed. off.
and this hurts my little heart.
in my own little dreamworld, they would do a public vote on their website to see how people really feel about this upgrade. (and go back and just apply some of the changes) :( </3
if not, maybe some genius could make an app of the old instagram filters… that would be amazeballs.
dear instagram, if you ever read this…
you. broke. my. heart.
NOW FIX IT….. AND FIX THE APP, TOO.
further reads about the same feelings (that specifically sum it up better than i could…):
September 18th, 2011 @ 11:18 pm
so i have one hour of my twenties left… i’m watching twin peaks and eating donuts by myself.
my boyfriend is in DC on business and my cat is sleeping. all i have is twin peaks, and the hunt for laura palmer’s killer.
oh, and the donuts.
bye bye twenties…
i think it’s hard to let go of this decade because it’s so full of youth… moving forward there’s only room to grow for another decade and then you just go downhill. that shit scares me.
in the last decade, so much shit has happened to me. good and bad. but it’s shaped me more than i thought my teen years had/and or ever could.
good and horrible friends, raves and shows, meeting my father/brother/grandmother, working at west coast and cascarino’s where i met some of my best friends that i still keep til this day, my longest relationships (that i’ll always love, even if we don’t talk anymore…), my stupidest love mistakes, moving out, finding most of my favorite bands, the best upstate times, tattoos and piercings, finding my digital creative niche and career, working in dumbo, mets and ranger games, crazy bell blvd nights, become closer with my sister, shows shows shows, vacations without family, being responsible for myself, etc…
mainly it was just becoming an adult, now i just feel like i have to be one, no exceptions…
i also think that i have this expectation set for myself that i was supposed to be financially set, married, maybe with a kid by now and i’m not.
i’m definitely not ready for that (and i haven’t wanted that anyhow), but it still lingers…
in happy birthday news, my sister and best friend planned a great party for me at my favorite bar, and a shit ton of my friends rolled through and took up the entire front of the bar… it was so great to have everyone there… i felt kind of bad that i didn’t get a lot of one on one time with many people, but i still tried to make my rounds.
i had my friend laura there and i hadn’t seen her since my birthday party that i had when i was living in midwood. she’s so amazing… she wrote the sweetest thing on my birthday sign and it made me miss her a lot. we always just pick up where we left off and all we do is laugh, she’s great. she told me that i was amazing and that she thinks of me all the time even though we aren’t hanging out together… i’m glad that i fully appreciated every shift i had with that girl at cascarino’s (in both stores), it was our designated hangout time, lol.
mike finally got to meet different friends of mine, and he even met steve. which i was getting a little freaked out about because steve is my ex and he never likes being around my current boyfriends :( which is totally understandable but we’re still good friends, so i wanted him there.
mike got me tickets to see danzig (and doyle PERFORMING MISFITS SONGS) for my bday and opening day tickets for the rangers! (and another game against the isles) – but i am super super psyched about opening day. i know i’m gonna be crying so hard if they have anything for boogey
i had a great time around great people.<3 thanks guys
September 16th, 2011 @ 8:27 pm
this week i managed to get served jury duty (i’ve been successfully dodging it up until this point in my life) AND rite aid offered me a free glucose test because i’ve stacked up over 500 pts… they couldn’t just see that i buy 9389739737 sally hansen and brucci nail polishes on the daily, and give me at least ONE? wtf else are they tracking my purchases for, the corporate dick faces…
DON’T THEY KNOW IT’S MY BIRTHDAY ON MONDAY?
shit… throw me a free plastic pill box, or a mr. goodbar or some shit…
i hate getting older already, lol.